Forgiveness is about shedding the load. If you still have the stress, you haven’t truly forgiven. It’s not about forgetting, it’s about forgiving. and it’s not about them, it’s about you.
Do you want to keep suffering? Then give up the burden. Think about something else.
Dwell on the pain and it goes on and on.
Yes, I know it’s not fair, but it wasn’t fair to start with. The scales rarely balance, but for your own life, you are in control. Make your life a place of joy and peace, and you won’t get there by constantly returning to the past.
I carried a grudge against the primary school bully for twenty years. Felt I was wholly justified in hating that arsehole for the pain they had caused.
Then I met them at a reunion. They had found Jesus and reformed years ago. Shit. All that hate I’d wasted on them!