So often I see men who just don't have a clue how we see things. They figure women are men with slightly different arrangements.

They don't see the discrimination, the humiliations, the lesser pay, the many petty and major embarrassments and put-downs.

But they can have someone point them in the right direction.

I guess if one is raised in a fundamentalist family and community, one might not see things as others with a wider view might.

I had a bit of that when I was a girl, but at least I was taught to question things, to listen, to open my eyes.

It comes down to two things, respecting others as yourself. And love.

Someone may seem bigoted and backward and thoroughly steeped in evil, unable to see things from a different point of view. But with kindness and tolerance and a good example, they might open their eyes. Sometimes, once a detail is seen, it cannot be unseen, and the world becomes a brighter place.

God forbid we should all yell at each other and whoever has the loudest voice wins.

Britni