You are not your breasts.
But in today’s world, so focussed on body image, this sort of thing, not to mention thoughtless comments from peers, cannot have helped.
I loved Middlesex. A book well ahead of its time, and we’re finally seeing progress on gender issues. And the importance of what a body’s owner wants, as opposed to the expectations of society and family.
Good on you for not going the surgery route. Would a NHS bust satisfy those who see your breasts as a defining feature? Probably not. I think that someone who can connect on a deeper level just wouldn’t care.
I would consider your breasts a badge of courage. A sign of steadfastness and self-confidence. May your crocus long stand tall and proud!